Since i turned 15, my manhood was having a toll on me. I have a good islamic background alhamdulillah with no stupid extremism (referring to arrogant, extra-unislamic thoughts/practices), but my parents are as usual typical Pakistanis who consider Age 28,32 for marriage. I was alone, only child, in a pool of severe depression, from being a topper in school, my graph came down extensively in high school. But no one cared to understand me as only words i wanted to listen where "Finish your studies, As well as earn while studies so that you can be setup post studies" but NOPE, i used to hear "Don't even think of Marriage again before 30". I also become a bit rebelled to my parents but just internally in mind. Later on, i developed many interests out of that loneliness and depressed time such as movies, news, aviation (that was even before 13 age, i wanted to become aeronautical eng from Emirates aviation College but later on, time went by, fee structure was just a burden to see to gave up on it, hence why i am here on this forum today, thanks to jets, still have all the small scaled accurate toy models of many jets such as tomcat, M2K, F-16 and many more that i used to play with as a child), these interests were to just forget everything, stay in a delusional world. Later on, all those thoughts, new manhood, disappeared to much extent, living happily now, don't care about all this much but yeah, still living in my own separate world that i created out of that time, addicted to it. Not interested in relationships / girls, never was even then.
So this was in reply to "I don't see how someone who values his manhood is willing to engage in this. I am in the boat that both ideas are wrong and man should be reserved about his sex life and live with a happy woman with his significant other." Man has the ability to control his desires, control himself, Allah has given the highest authority to men in this world for a reason, because he can do almost anything if he makes his mind to. One must have this ability to think even himself as a separate entity from his mind and must control the actions of this entity wisely.
After all this, and now being a mature young man, i have this poetic mind inside me as you mentioned "Significant other", wanting a 'SOUL' mate, not due to some physical desires but for mental peace, a wise lady to help me and get help in different phases of life. Plain simple. Never even thought of Polygamy. That is portrayed or the circumstances these days have made it appear a failed practice. Polygamy or multiple wives could be a toll on mind, given the stupid mind ladies accompany mostly.
As for those, who actively involved in group sex/extra marital sex while call polygamy an evil act, they are hypocrites. They are the same people who try to avoid segregation in schools, indecent cloths for children, and in the end, those children end up losing virginity by age 12, 14 and down as 10 or 9.
@Khafee first the model thread and now this, let me search what else do we have here....I wonder where all the tharki lot went
